1. Don’t act desperate
Desperation is like girl repellant. If you are hoping for a girl to like you then be confident and straightforward. Don’t act needy, obsessive or over the top about her. This will not be attractive. Women like men with confidence. You don’t have to be cocky but you should show that you have some self-esteem and that she is not the only girl in the world. As the old saying goes: “There are plenty of fish in the sea.” Remember that and don’t get fixated on one girl. That is NOT how to get a girl to like you!
2. Don’t “stalk” her
Of course, you would never literally stalk a woman. However, some men can get a tad bit obsessive when they are interested in someone. Be careful not to blow up her phone, Facebook, Twitter, etc. Don’t show up at her house or other places where you know she will be (unless invited.) Don’t ask too many questions about her social life, other guys or her friends. Showing an interest is one thing. Keeping tabs on her is a total other thing. You can go from cute to creepy in no time flat!
3. Don’t be too aggressive
Don’t ask her out over and over again, make sexual comments or generally act in a possessive or over the top way. Don’t touch her unless you can tell she wants to be touched. Show discretion and be subtle and be sure to give her space. You can easily become a “creep” and she will not only not want to date you but probably won’t want to be around you!
4. Compliment her
Don’t shower her with compliments until she is nauseated but be sure to let her know you think she is great. Tell her you like her hair, her clothes, her car or that you think she is smart or funny. You can, of course, tell her she is pretty but don’t focus too much on physical appearances. Women like to be valued for other things like their minds, their abilities and their personalities and they too often hear too much about their appearance.
5. Show off your talents
Bragging or boasting will not impress her so don’t be obnoxious about it but let her see what you can do. Show off your cooking skills by inviting her to a dinner party. If you’re in a band, ask her to come watch you play. Let her see you in your element and allow her to form her own impression of you. Don’t tell her you are awesome. SHOW her!
6. Be nice
Nice guys don’t finish last. Nice guys are the best guys. You don’t have to be saccharine sweet or cry at sad movies. You don’t have to act like a pushover or a sap. Just BE NICE! Be sweet, gentle, kind and loving. Give her compliments, smile and show her your best side.
7. Be funny
There’s nothing hotter than a funny guy. Make her laugh. You don’t have to be a stand-up comedian. Tell her funny stories, show off your own sense of humor and enjoy your time with her. A man who can make a girl laugh will steal her heart!
8. Be sincere
Don’t use cheesy pick-up lines, lie about yourself or put on an act. Let her see that you are sincerely and honestly interested in her as a person. Flirtation is great but acting like a used car salesman will push her away in no time.
9. Be yourself
This should go without saying but, too often, people put on acts for people that they like. Don’t do it. Be 100% who you are. If you aren’t interested in something don’t pretend to be. If you like your clothes, don’t change them for her. Never be someone else for another person. It will just end in heartache for everyone. If she doesn’t like the real you then you’re better off finding out now… and it’s her loss!
10. Let her know that you like her
Be subtle and discrete, of course. Don’t act aggressively or like a creepy stalker (as we talked about earlier). On the other hand, make it clear that you are interested. Don’t be too shy to express how you feel. Flirt a little. Tell her you think she is great. Give the signs that you know she will see without being over the top. The best way to get a girl to like you is to be a great guy who likes her! Period.