Asking a girl out can seem daunting and frightening. Your mind swims with what to say, how to say it, what she will think of you and worry of being embarrassed or rejected. You may feel like it is not even worth the trouble or the risk of humiliation.
However, the most important thing to keep in mind is that girls WANT to be asked out.
They love to be asked out. It’s a great feeling to know that someone is interested in you and wants to spend time with you. Does that mean that you will never get rejected? No. You may get your feelings hurt. The point is that it is worth it to take the risk!
Here are 5 key points to consider when asking a girl out. No one can tell YOU exactly how to ask a girl out. That will depend on your particular circumstances, personality and how you think she will respond. The important thing is to keep these important points in mind when you make your move.
1. Be brave and confident
Don’t stutter, stumble or lose your cool. Show her that you are confident and that you are able to face her with dignity and without becoming a total mess. It is flattering if you seem a little nervous but if you seem like a wreck she will not be attracted to you. Walk right up to her, make eye contact and… smile… which brings us to #2
Don’t act like a cheesy car salesman and goofily grin at her the whole time you are speaking to her, of course, but smile. Let her know that you are happy to be speaking with her. Show her a positive attitude that comes along with confidence. Let her see that you are excited about the prospect of a date and don’t be afraid to put yourself out there.
3. Chat her up
Talk to her, ask her questions, laugh, joke and generally show her that you are good company. Women want to date men who are good company, after all. Let her see that you are interested in her by asking her about herself, her family, her career and so on. Be attentive and excited to learn about her. Share about yourself and be sure to let her know if you have something In common with her. For instance, if she mentions loving dogs don’t miss the opportunity to let her know that you have dogs yourself.
4. Have a plan
If you are asking her out be prepared with ideas of things you two might like to do together. You can go with the simple and easy dinner date which is always a good choice. You can also come up with something more creative or personal to her. Regardless, have some ideas of things that you two would have a good time doing together.
5. Be flexible
While having a plan is great you should also be prepared for the possibility that she will have plans for the evening you chose or ideas of her own for something fun to do. Be open to the ideas that she throws out and willing to work your schedule around hers. You don’t want to seem controlling, pushy or rude before you even go on your first date!!
Figuring out how to ask a girl out (especially a girl that you really like) can be downright terrifying! The possible bad results may make you feel paralyzed and sick to your stomach. You are not the only guy who has felt this way. Keep in mind, though, that the possibility of rejection is a risk you should be willing to take to possibly get to know someone that you could really care about. Be self-confident, show off who you are and show excitement to get to know her.
Be ready to come up with fun ideas but also ready to take her suggestions. Go into it with the attitude that she would be lucky to date you, After all, you are a great guy with a ton to offer. Show her that YOU are the guy that she needs to give a shot. If she chooses not to take you up on your offer then it is HER loss.