“I just don’t understand…”
“I’ve got a good job, I’m a decent looking guy with a great personality… why aren’t the women noticing me?”
Relax… take a deep breath.
How many times have you found yourself asking these frustrating questions?
You’re definitely not alone. Most guys feel like this at one point or another in their lives. Some guys never get out of this cycle of frustration.
Don’t give up. Before you drive yourself crazy, lets go over some of the basics of how the female mind works and how you can easily use this to your advantage and turn your situation around.
- Dress great every day. There is no need to wear a $2000 suit every time you go shopping or run errands. But you need to start dressing sharp every time you’re out in public. Put some effort into your appearance – shave, a bit of cologne, nice shoes, etc. If you’re only dressing to impress when you go out at night you’re passing up a lot of missed opportunities to interact with available women. Let’s face it… women are not just at the night clubs… they are out there in every day life and these can be great opportunities for you to meet them.
- Make eye contact. When meeting a new woman, make sure you make solid eye contact. They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. This may sound corny, but the fact is that women respond very favorably to confident eye contact (as long as you’re not acting like a pervert!) Studies have been done that show that dialted pupils are naturally alluring to most women. By lightly gazing at her facial features your pupils will dialate… and hopefully become irresistable to her.
- Caress with your eyes. Don’t just stare at her eyes… let your eyes wander lightly around her facial features. Done in a subtle fashion, this can be a great way to flirt without being too overbearing.
- Listen carefully. If you find yourself with nothing to say, listen carefully to what she is saying. Any out of the ordinary phrases and words can be a golden opportunity for you to interject and ask her questions. This shows you’re interested in what she has to say and are getting emotionally involved with her. Women usually appreciate it when a guy shows a genuine emotional interest in her life.
- Keep the talk energized. Men like to talk about facts and statistics… you know, sports, cars, etc. Women love talking about FEELINGS. Resist the temptation to talk about your interests for now and focus on talking about things that create an emotional reaction with her. Do this by steering away from boring facts. Pick subjects that relate directly to her and talk about how she feels. This will keep her interested and eager to continue confiding in you.
Now many of these tips may sound trivial or obvious. But men and women react differently and it’s easy for guys to forget this. Getting a woman interested in you and keeping her interest isn’t rocket science… keep it simple and get yourself out there. If you follow these basic tips you’re going to notice a huge difference in the way women interact with you.
Why You Are Not Attracting the Girl of Your Dreams
Contrary to what many men think, attracting pretty girls is not hard. It is true that stuff like money, power and looks can give you a better start in courtship, but this doesn’t mean that if you don’t have any of this you won’t get the girl. We are lucky that opposite to us, women are more attracted to our personality than to anything else, and personality is something that we can always change or improve.
The most common error average men do is that they feel inferior or unworthy of a beautiful woman. Once they get the chance to meet a beauty they act nervous, inferior and needy, which is a mayor turn-off for most women, especially the beautiful ones.
You have to change your mindset fast and thing about the woman as if you are shopping. There are about three billion women on the planet, so it is very unlikely that you are going to run out of options. Be in control of the situation and make sure she knows you are not only seeking for her approval, you are also qualifying her.
Be unique in every possible way positively. Women like unique items; how special will you be if you have the same haircut than the other 20 guys in the bar, or you use the same clothes or pick up lines that the last 7 guys that approached her used? You will just be “the next guy” if you make whatever everyone else is doing you get whatever anyone else is getting.
This next part may make you think I’m crazy, but it is ultra effective. Please make sure that you are confident with it, otherwise it will backfire. One of the most unique ways to approach a beautiful woman is to tease her in a funny way. Make fun of her hair, clothes, height or whatever you can find about her or her clothes. Depending on how confident the girl you’re talking to seems, you can turn up or down the teasing.
One of the reasons something like that works is that it telegraphs several of your qualities to a woman without you saying them and seeming like you are trying to impress her. Being able to do this will tell women you are confident, funny, ballsy and not needy. Being ok with the possibility of losing a girl is a sign of a strong man that can get whatever girl he wants, and this serves as social proof to a woman, which is extremely attractive.
As I said earlier, use this approach with caution. If you come off too strong you might get across as a jerk, so always use the funny element. The more you do this the more confident you’ll grow and reactions from woman will be improving.