If We Think She is Attractive or Want to Meet or Walk
Many guys have no idea what to say to a woman they want to approach for the first time. They may have seen the same girl in class or at work and want to talk to them without appearing creepy. I am going to give a few tips on how to make this scenario run smoothly.
Think of approaching a girl as a job interview. You have to tailor your cover letter/resume specifically for the job instead of what you want. This is exactly the same strategy with woman who you want to start a conversation with.
There is no one way that works for all woman but if you can find a way to hold a conversation for more than a minute you are better off than most guys.
An example of this is instead of asking what she is studying in college or what her major is approach it from a different angle. Ask her why she chose her major or why she has a specific interest in x,y,z.
This could include her type of laptop, clothing, or even what she’s reading. These questions are opinion based and can reveal a lot more about the person than a simple one word answer. This will give you more of an opportunity to find a subject that you can connect with.
The wrong way to try and get a woman’s attention is to complement her. This is a Hollywood fallacy that only seems to work on women who have a less than normal I.Q. and are typically not worth holding a conversation with.
A typical girl who gets complemented on her physical appearance may feel like you are trying to just get into her pants and avoid further conversation with you. When this happens it is awkward for both parties and proves you might have been better off with small talk.
Finally if you don’t feel confident enough to talk to a girl that caught your attention in class, think positively. Shave your face, wash your clothes and maybe even change up your wardrobe a bit to show off your feathers. It is the little things that may attract a woman’s initial attention but it will be your personality that holds it.
Even working out in the gym a few days a week helps most people gain confidence in a social setting and remember if you feel shy the first few times it was better to try and see the result than wonder what would have happened. Some girls like shy guys and are willing to continue to stay in contact to learn more about them.
How to Approach a Woman and Face Possible Rejection
Why is it that most men can climb the highest mountain, sky dive from thousands of feet in the air, or run a marathon and can’t approach a young lady to save his life? The answer is pretty simple; it is the fear of rejection.
Rejection is one of the most hardest things to face in life. Have you ever gotten a rejection letter from a college? It really stings and this is why most men don’t approach women even though they may think she looks like a goddess.
I know you can recall a time where you saw that special girl and she looked perfect to you. You couldn’t take her eye off her and you wanted to talk to her so bad but couldn’t build up enough courage to muster a word.
You strategize and plan the move your want to make on her knowing all the while in the back of your head that its only a plan and your not going to put it into action because your scared of the rejection.
She can be thinking she wants to get to know you and she could be waiting on you to approach her but you will never know because you won’t make the first move.
Even if she isn’t interested and your turned down, it isn’t the end of the world, your going to go back to the same house, have the same friends, work the same job, and you will forget about her within the next couple hours.
A motto I like to go by is every no your hear is one no closer to a yes, so anytime you get turned down the next person you approach has the potential to give you the time of day but you would never know without making the first step.
Now your ready to make the move but what are you going to say? Well for starters you can ask her name introduce yourself and be straight forward with her.
Tell her that you thought she was beautiful and you would like to get to know her better, you don’t have to say these things just be yourself and let conversation flow, don’t ever stumble on conversation, it puts you in a awkward situation that you don’t want to be in trust me.
So never be scared of rejection it’s a part of life and rejection can be good because then you realize its not bad after a while and it flies right over your head.